During my 20's and early 30's I struggled with one relationship after another, a classic serial
monogamist. I was married, divorced, had a lover move in and then he moved out. As each relationship ended, I would
vow not to give up on love! The problem was, I kept doing it the same way over and over again...and the relationships
kept failing.
And I always blamed the guy. Why couldn't I find someone who could give me what I needed?
Why were all the good ones taken? Why was this happening to me?
It wasn't until I got a bit older and wiser that I realized I was looking for a soulmate to
"complete" me. I thought I would be happy if only I could find my Life Partner. And that was the essential problem.
I was not a Successful Single!
I made a conscious decision to change my perspective. I began to realize that each person
we attract into our lives serves as a mirror, reflecting us back to ourselves. If a relationship should end, painfully
or mutually, slowly or suddenly, there is the gift of learning that is left behind. If we take advantage of the opportunity,
we can discover so much about who we are, what we value, what pushes our buttons, what brings us joy.
I took the time to look back over all my past relationships and I discovered some amazing
things about myself, some that were painful and difficult to accept. And I slowly began to take some responsibility
for my relationship failures. That was when my real work began.
By my mid-thirties, I was happy being single. I had built a strong support community,
I had lots of interests that kept me busy and fulfilled. It was then that I attracted a partner who was also a happy
single. We didn't complete each other. As individuals we were already complete. I took my time, balancing
my heart with my head. He turned out to be "the one". We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary!
In my coaching practice I see many people struggle with relationship issues. My
life experience and the training I received from Coach U have provided me with a unique and powerful approach to
personal growth. My advanced training at the Relationship Coaching Institute provided me with innovative tools and techniques
to support singles in their quest to have successful relationships. My studies at Norwalk Community College in Conflict Resolution
and Negotiation have given me a set of skills that can be used effectively when negotiating the issues that invariably
surface in relationships.
I have been through many changes in my life. Some have brought me great happiness and
some have brought me to my knees. But I have managed to learn something about myself and grow from each transition and
I now find myself in this perfect place. Coaching is my passion. Partnering with others and sharing all the gifts I've
been given brings me great joy. I welcome the opportunity to join you on your journey of self-exploration and growth.
