During my 20's and early 30's I struggled with one relationship after another, a classic
serial monogamist. I was married, divorced, had a lover move in and then he moved out. As each relationship ended,
I would vow not to give up on love! The problem was, I kept doing it the same way over and over again...and the relationships
kept failing.
And I always
blamed the guy. Why couldn't I find someone who could give me what I needed? Why were all the good ones taken?
Why was this happening to me?
It wasn't until I got a bit older and wiser that I realized I was looking for a soulmate to "complete"
me. I thought I would be happy if only I could find my Life Partner. And that was the essential problem. I was
not a Successful Single!
I
made a conscious decision to change my perspective. I began to realize that each person we attract into our lives serves
as a mirror, reflecting us back to ourselves. If a relationship should end, painfully or mutually, slowly or suddenly,
there is the gift of learning that is left behind. If we take advantage of the opportunity, we can discover so much
about who we are, what we value, what pushes our buttons, what brings us joy.
I took the time to look back over all my past relationships
and I discovered some amazing things about myself, some that were painful and difficult to accept. And I slowly began
to take some responsibility for my relationship failures. That was when my real work began.
By my mid-thirties,
I was happy being single. I had built a strong support community, I had lots of interests that kept me busy and fulfilled.
It was then that I attracted a partner who was also a happy single. We didn't complete each other. As individuals
we were already complete. I took my time, balancing my heart with my head. I was conscious and finally ready for
a healthy, long-term relationship.
In my coaching practice I see many people struggle with relationship issues. My life experience
and the training I received from Coach U have provided me with a unique and powerful approach to personal growth.
My advanced training at the Relationship Coaching Institute provided me with innovative tools and techniques to support singles
in their quest to have successful relationships. My studies at Norwalk Community College in Conflict Resolution and Negotiation
have given me a set of skills that can be used effectively when negotiating the issues that invariably surface in
relationships.
I have been
through many changes in my life. Some have brought me great happiness and some have brought me to my knees. But
I have managed to learn something about myself and grow from each transition and I now find myself in this perfect place.
Coaching is my passion. Partnering with others and sharing all the gifts I've been given brings me great joy.
I welcome the opportunity to join you on your journey of self-exploration and growth.
